WHAT HAVE BEEN YOUR HIGHLIGHTS OF 2013 SO FAR?
Is it just me or is every year eventful in its own way? Each year equips me with life lessons as needed. For instance, some were all about loss. One year I found myself witnessing children dying and learning how to respond when they openly talked to me about their feelings and thoughts. Another year an event blew all my beliefs out of the window, I was shocked to realise I felt that my whole purpose in life had been snatched from me. This was done so quickly that I had no control over life. I wondered seriously about giving up life altogether. Another year I lost unexpectedly many loved ones in a short space of time, resulting in feeling overwhelmed and not knowing how to manage another funeral, loss, fears that I lose everyone who matters to me and the fear of this becoming more and more my reality. Another year was spent learning how to rid myself of nightmares, replacing them with humour, joy and peace, putting the meaning back into my life. Another year was full of good luck and popularity, I felt ‘chosen’ whenever I applied for something. Several years were ‘achieving’ my goals years.
And this year is no different. I am going to name it the year of surprise. I am a strong believer that the more we are challenged, the greater the gift we reap. This year I can proudly announce that I have stared fear in the face and smiled at her. As I have struggled for the first time in my life with debilitating health symptoms which on occasion have caused some alarm. I am grateful I’ve had cause to live through my fears: ‘could I live with a sense of calm if my days were numbered?’, ‘could I find the strength to leave loved ones behind without the constant worry and focus of them?’, ‘can I live happily with the loss of so many of my abilities and hobbies?’, and ‘transform all of these into a joyful contentment?’ I can answer, yes on the whole, yes I can. My determination to pursue and succeed with my Life Coaching business (www.sunnywillows.co.uk ) remains, it gives my life’s experiences purpose. I value time highly, what I choose to do with it has to serve some great purpose, I strive to ‘give something back’ and not just ‘take from’ life. My Life Coaching, the balance of work, rest and laugh that it encompasses, fulfils this passion and helps give me a happy outlook and adds to my natural playfulness.
I am fortunate enough to have been a big part of several peoples surprising personal journeys this year. Recently I was sharing a bus ride and not until later did we realise that we had shared a fleeting thought of the bus crashing. I was ill that day and dismissed it in my distracted and sleepy state but lucky for me my friend did not. She listened to her intuition and mentally rehearsed what to do in the event of a crash. Suddenly we found that we had been thrown a good five feet out of our seats. She spontaneously acted out her earlier mental image and wedged herself against a vertical bar to stop injury, placed an arm and leg out to her side to save me. There was nothing else we believe, would have saved me as unlike all the other seat positions on the bus, there was nothing in front of mine to stop me. Thankfully no one was seriously hurt. I put my lack of injury down to the beautiful selfless act and courage to listen and act on intuition. Later that same day I put a moral argument forward to someone who was hell bent on a selfish act that would have caused upset to others and helped him to change his mind and actions. It just goes to show, the strength, courage and beauty people possess to morally assess and adjust their decisions. Much to my surprise, another friend bought me a car recently. I feel I have to pinch myself to make sure it is real. I keep thinking how he must think me ‘pretty neat!’ It warms my heart. My love for him could not have been made greater before or after but this is such a beautiful way to say I love you, you are important to me. He told me that he felt I have had a ‘hard life’. This surprised me somewhat. I wonder what other folk think? Isn’t it funny, our perceptions are so often different to the reality of the situation. I would have said that as I am usually quite a private person that most people do not know much about me and my experiences. Many of my close friends have made the wrong assumptions. This is what I have found to be true most of the time. So it came as a surprise to me that my friend spent a lot of money on a car for me, enlightening me with his perception of me. I feel truly blessed to be part of all these journeys.
I am now copy and pasting the attachments – separately as I am struggling. The first one is for my ‘gratitude’ meetings. Please let me know if you need this shortening. Thank you.
IT’S FUN, IT’S FREE, IT WILL BRING A SMILE TO YOUR FACE, LOVE TO YOUR HEART
IT’S A ‘WIN, WIN’ EXPERIENCE
IT IS NOTHING LESS THAN SHARING GRATITUDE
IN A SAFE, SOCIAL AND NURTURING ENVIRONMENT
WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS? :
IT GIVES US A HAPPIER OUTLOOK AS OUR FOCUS IS ON ALL THE GOOD THINGS IN OUR DAY
DUE TO THE POSITIVE STATE OF MIND THAT THIS PRODUCES WE BECOME RECEPTIVE TO THE GOOD THINGS IN LIFE, DISPELLING THE NEGATIVE BLOCKS
WE ARE MORE LIKELY TO HAVE POSITIVE EXPERIENCES
THE MORE WE DO THIS, THE MORE WE TASTE THE GREAT EXPERIENCES LIFE HAS TO OFFER
WITH GRATITUDE WE BECOME MORE FUN TO BE AROUND AND BECOME PEOPLE MAGNETS
WHAT DO WE DO? WE SIMPLY LIST OUR GRATITUDE
SO IF YOU FANCY BECOMING A ‘GOOD TIMES MAGNET’ AND A ‘HAPPY PEOPLE MAGNET’
JUST COME AND SHARE AND YOU WILL BE GUIDED THROUGHOUT
ONE LIFE, LIVE IT!
Develop your self-confidence in a five week course.
and now my poem:
I have a little story that I like to share, it has shaped my life here and there.
I was sitting with my ma in a public place, when I noticed the girl dressed in lace.
She was approaching everyone around her, and creating a stir.
I watched with interest as everyone she ensnared, wriggled uncomfortably and behind red faces glared.
I wondered how this slip of a girl could be causing all this commotion, as my mind wandered over all the motion.
Discreetly trying to fathom her offending intention, then at last I heard her conversation
She simply asked ‘Do you love me? Do you love me?’
Immediately I shuffled in my seat. I wanted to leave and admit defeat.
I knew this girl was heading our way. I’ll not tell her I love her no way!
Too late for escape. She has us as if by the nape
This young lady in lace drew her face up too close to our own. I was already out of my comfort zone!
‘Do you love me?’ she demanded. Ma’s reply left me pretty dumbfounded.
Ma looked tenderly into this strangers eyes and simply said yes. ‘I love you, yes’.
The girl smiled contently. Even sweetly.
She walked off far away, while my ma and I sat together in the usual way.
‘Ma, how can you honestly tell that girl you love her?’ I implored. ‘I do love her. I love different people in different ways’, ma reassured.
‘But you don’t even know her’, I persisted. ‘I do love her, I love everyone’, ma insisted.
This story that I tell you, it is completely true.
I was never quite the same after the day that ma and I met the girl in the lace. I was given a lesson about the human race
I have felt ever since an enormity of endless love, It feels warm, comfortable and fits like a glove.
Now I say ‘I love you’ with ease and sincerity, ‘I love you’, I say and offer prosperity
I be just a messenger, for it is in my opinion, that ma is the teacher
How did she learn how to love this big? This is my ma, she really is this big! Written by Sunrise Marina Willows 29/11/2012
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